Often our desire to be in Heaven now, comes and goes. That is not to say that it completely goes away. However, the intensity of our desire may increase and decrease over each day and week. During those moments in which you find yourself able, I would strongly encourage you to form a 'Safety Plan'.
What is it?
A Safety Plan is a personal contract that you create. It provides you the control to form a number of simple steps that you can follow when the desire for Heaven begins to intensify. Having a Safety Plan takes away some of the uncertainty and stress in those difficult times, as you already have a plan on how you will survive.
If you notice yourself thinking about suicide, this document will give you personalised ideas of how to cope. However, a safety plan is not just useful for suicidal ideation but for depression, anxiety as well as addictions. If you notice an urge or desire coming on you are able to follow each step of your safety plan.
How to make one?
Ideally you would form the safety plan with a trusted friend, adult or counsellor. They may be able to help you think through each section. I would encourage you to write the safety plan somewhere that you can easily access in times of need.
The Safety Plan is broken up into seven sections. These sections include, My Warning Signs, My Reasons To Live, Making My Space Safe, Connecting With Myself, Connecting With Places, Connecting With People and, Professional Help.
If you would like, you can print off the Desiring Heaven Now Template. Additionally, Beyond Blue have a web & app version.
Considerations
If you are having suicidal thoughts, please reach out to a trusted friend, adult or counsellor. You do not have to hurt in silence.
A safety plan is a dynamic document that you can change and update as often as you like. Find out what helps and what doesn't.
You cannot begin your safety plan too early. There is no harm beginning your plan at the slightest feelings of sadness, hurt or concern. It is better to act too early than too late.
Consider talking to your connect people beforehand and explaining what you want from them in the times you reach out. It is good to be upfront with your connect people. You don't have to spend the whole time talking about your thoughts and emotions, you can chat about whatever. Let yourself be distracted from your suicidal thoughts.
Examples
My Warning Signs
I am beginning to feel lonely.
I am about to drive home at night.
I am getting worried that I might harm myself.
The anniversary of my friend's death is coming up.
My Reasons To Live
My younger brother needs me.
I am looking forward to the Taylor Swift concert.
I want to have kids of my own.
I am looking forward to summer and going to the beach.
Making My Space Safe
Have Mum lock away my medications for a length of time
Give your car keys to Sam so he can stop me from driving.
Ask Max to come over and chill with me.
I am going to study in the lounge room where people can see me.
Connecting With Myself
I am going to have a warm bath.
I will listen to my favourite playlist.
I will go for a run.
I am going to write in my journal.
Connecting With Places
I am going to kick a ball at the local park
I am going to see if Bella is able to go for a walk.
If sunny, I will sun-bake in the backyard.
I will go for a surf.
Connecting With People
Call Steve - 0412345678
Send a text to mum and dad.
Send a voice message to three friends.
Meet with Dylan at the park.
What works for you may or may not work for someone else.
Create your own Safety Plan today.
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